I hate to disagree with family, but I think it is appropriate to vote on gay marriage. And I’m not even saying it’s right or wrong or whatever. Marriage is a sociologically defined entity, not a right. Living, loving and doing what you want with you want is a right. Being ‘married’ is something that is a culturally bound legal state, nothing more. In India it meant one woman and lots of men. In Utah for a while it meant one man and lots of women. Apparently for Eskimos it meant having someone to use as barter for a novel sex partner. It’s culturally defined. Saying one group can come along and just demand a cultural change strikes me as a little self-centered and entitled. From my perspective it’s like a bunch of 12 year old jewish girls demanding Barmitzvah’s when they turn 13 because they were born to Barmitzmah. They have a right to throw a wild party, but they don’t have a right to change to overarching societal norm. Boy, this is long. To sum up, marriage is, in America, a socially defined state. When society catches up, or however you want to view it, and decides the definition has changed, then it’s changed. We can only know that by asking everyone in some organized way how they feel on the matter, some way like taking a vote or something. But that’s my sociological/anthropological take on it anyway.