The Gun is Fear

The shootings in Buffalo and Texas have wrecked me – and I can’t keep watching the same old arguments fly by in screenshotted tweets in Instagram stories. It’s all so predictable and isn’t going to change anything. And that makes this grief feel worse. This thought keeps pinging around in my head and it won’t… Continue reading The Gun is Fear

The Next Step in Representation

My youngest is in the process of graduating from high school, and I’ve got all kinds of feelings about it, so I’ve been escaping to comfort TV and rewatching The Great Pottery Throwdown from start to finish. In season four, they “promoted” kiln man Rich to host (he’s delightful) and replaced him as the kiln… Continue reading The Next Step in Representation

Say No to Takes

You are not compelled to form any opinion about this matter before you, nor to disturb your peace of mind at all. Things in themselves have no power to extort a verdict from you. Marcus Aurelius

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Climbing Mountains or Digging Coal

I was talking to my manager today about what I want to do, specifically about how much of my time I want to spend coding and I came up with a new metaphor! Coding, especially in Ruby, isn’t the same challenge it used to be. Do I still like it? Sure, it’s fun, and I… Continue reading Climbing Mountains or Digging Coal

A Quick Friday Thought on Soft Power

I was talking to someone today about soft power, and an hour of me giving advice and workshopping things came down to: Build trust by working in the open and asking people for feedback. Praise them for their contributions, often. Talk to people and ask their preferred work style, and respect it. You build trust… Continue reading A Quick Friday Thought on Soft Power

Coming Out

Two years ago, I wrote about our kids coming out. Well, it’s National Coming Out Day again and I have stuff to talk about. That last post was about preparing for your kid coming out to you, but I think it’s worth preparing ourselves for anyone we care about coming out to us – because… Continue reading Coming Out

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