You are not compelled to form any opinion about this matter before you, nor to disturb your peace of mind at all. Things in themselves have no power to extort a verdict from you. Marcus Aurelius
Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world’s grief. Do justly now, love mercy now, walk humbly now. You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it. Rabbi Tarfon in 70CE
I read this harrowing essay about being a woman on the internet at lunch today and it got me thinking (which is a sure sign of a good essay). It reminded me of this episode of Plain English where he talked to Dan Pink about regret. The host makes a joke about how he’s wasted […]
I was talking to my manager today about what I want to do, specifically about how much of my time I want to spend coding and I came up with a new metaphor! Coding, especially in Ruby, isn’t the same challenge it used to be. Do I still like it? Sure, it’s fun, and I […]
I’ve been feeling pretty blah about the holidays, and I think Josh Marshall gets to the core of it. I’m just tired of COVID, tired of the constant debate, unknowns, the raging of morons, the lack of common sense and shared sacrifice, of not knowing if I’m doing enough to protect myself and my family, […]
I was talking to someone today about soft power, and an hour of me giving advice and workshopping things came down to: Build trust by working in the open and asking people for feedback. Praise them for their contributions, often. Talk to people and ask their preferred work style, and respect it. You build trust […]
Two years ago, I wrote about our kids coming out. Well, it’s National Coming Out Day again and I have stuff to talk about. That last post was about preparing for your kid coming out to you, but I think it’s worth preparing ourselves for anyone we care about coming out to us – because […]
I’m going to put my thoughts about Squid Game below my list of other things you should check out, but first… if you liked it, here are some shows I think you’ll like! Alice in Borderland (Netflix) – The acting and backstories in Squid Game are better, but I liked the premise and WTF factor […]
This isn’t really a retrospective, because it ain’t over, but we’re doing a relfection on how we’ve been affected by COVID at work today, so I decided to write some things down before the meeting so my thoughts are in some kind of order. I’m sharing it here because, well, I wrote it down. Now […]
I have a lot of personas when I’m at the computer. There’s me, the person, who has social media accounts and personal email and an Amazon account and various streaming services. There’s work me, who has gmail and a million github tabs open. There’s TechSAV me, and several SKTCS versions of me. All of them […]